If there’s one thing motherhood teaches us, it’s that nothing stays the same for long. Our children change, we  change, and the way we care for ourselves and each other must change too. Co-Care — this shared, neuroaffirming approach to self-care — isn’t a fixed system or perfect routine. It’s a living, breathing relationship between your needs and theirs. It’s never “set and forget.” Instead, it’s an ongoing conversation: “What do we need now?” “What are we soothing?” “What b

Self-care has long been described as a solo activity — something you do alone to refill your cup. That's fine when you just have to look after one cup - but when you are a mum, you have lots of cups that you are accountable for - we focus on filling those while ours stays empty. For many neurodivergent mums , the traditional self-care narrative has always felt like a bad fit. The world tells us we should make time for ourselves , but our brains are wired for care  — and once

We’ve all heard it: “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” But for many neurodivergent mums, that cup doesn’t just feel empty — it’s cracked, hidden under a pile of washing, and someone’s probably using it for glitter slime. Self-care sounds simple in theory, yet in practice it feels like another impossible task on the already-overloaded list. And there’s a reason for that — actually, several. If you live with ADHD , Autism , or both, or if you’re still discovering how your brai

When you don't have the correct user manual - it is easy to get lost Why Our Nervous Systems Feel Different For many mums —...

Being a mum is already full-on — the endless to-do lists, the constant juggle, the never-ending emotional labour. But if you’re AuDHD — autistic and  ADHD — motherhood can feel like spinning ten plates with hands that won’t keep still. I know this because I’m an AuDHDer mum myself and I am lucky enough to support AuADHD mums, just like you, everyday. Understanding my wiring helped me make sense of why motherhood felt so overwhelming at times. It wasn’t that I was failing; it

If you’ve heard the term AuDHD  and wondered what it means, you’re not alone. More and more people are beginning to recognise this unique combination of neurodivergence, yet it’s still often misunderstood — even by professionals. I’m AuDHD myself, and finally understanding what that meant was like being handed the right operations manual for my brain after years of trying to read the wrong one. That moment of clarity was life-changing — and it’s why I’m so passionate about he

living our values is essential for mental health and identity - learn how to take little steps towards a more fulfilling life while parenting a neurodivergent child.

Learn how to find yourself beyond the roles you play by embracing your values.

Losing Yourself in Motherhood — It Happens It’s not just you. So many neurodivergent mums  tell me: “I don’t know who I am anymore.” Between emotional labour, mental load, advocacy, and the day-to-day chaos, our own identity can blur until we feel more like a role than a person. That’s where values come in. They’re not just abstract ideas — they’re a lifeline back to your authentic life. A core pillar of Acceptance and Commitment therapy (ACT), is the idea of living a congruo

Our identity changes when we have kids and then again after neurodivergence diagnosis. Learn about why identity matters and why it is worth reclaiming.

What is grounding? In the counselling context when we ask you if you are feeling grounded, we don't mean are you feeling down to earth or...

Why breathing is important for autistic and ADHD mums Today, let's dive into a topic that's close to my heart and can truly make a...

In the last 2 weeks, we introduced the idea of accepting emotions to help remove their power. I heard back from some of our subscribers...

The struggle with our thoughts for neurodivergent mums Often as neurodivegent mums, we struggle with unpleasant thoughts and feelings....

Suppressing emotions and why it doesn't work When I tell you not to think about elephants.... what did you do? You thought about...

Mindfulness is about the here and now, being in the moment and not caught up in our thoughts. Regular mindfulness practice has been...

You have done all of the hard work to identify where you need stronger boundaries, but the reality is you can't do it in isolation. As...

I am yet to meet a mum with zero boundaries in place. If this were the case, it would be a lot simpler in some respects as you would be...

Setting boundaries as a neurodivergent mum can feel uncomfortable — even selfish. But for many neurodivergent mums navigating the...

Anxiousness and excitement - how it feels in our bodies Your heart is racing, your palms are sweaty and prickly, you are taking shallow breaths and there are butterflies in your tummy. What are you feeling? Is it anxiousness , is it excitement? Sometimes it can be hard to tell - interestingly, these two emotions feel psychologically very different and appear life opposites to us, but they have a lot more in common than we might initially think…. Let's dive in. As I sit here